Title: How to Win Friends & Influence People
by: Dale Carnegie
Still one of the most successful how-to books out there for teaching you how to take any situation & make it work for you. There are 6 ways to encourage people to like you better, &
9 ways to change people without arousing resentment in them:
1.Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders; it's easier to take in.
5. Let the other person "save face" & try to do a better job.
6. Be *lavish* in your praise of good behavior.
7. Give the other person a GOOD reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement! Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy at doing the things you suggest.
12 ways to to win people to your way of thinking.
1. The way to get the best out of an argument is to avoid it entirely.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions; never outright say "you're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit your mistake immediately & emphatically. Exonerate your errors!
4. Begin in a friendly/amiable way.
5.Get the other person to say "yes, yes" quickly.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person think the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see the things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas.
10. Appeal to nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas!
12. Throw Down a Challenge!
"If I've done good I've never heard it-- but if I've done wrong, I hear it twice."
"You can make more friends in in two months, by being interested in them rather than making them interested in us."
"Don't fear being misunderstood by others. Picture the able person you wish to be."
"It is always nicer to hear/handle criticism after being praised, first."
"Do not criticize others-- when dealing with people, remember you are dealing with emotional beings, not logical ones."
Title: The Hiding Place
by: Corrie Ten Boom
This is a book that reminds us to be Christ-like & "grateful in every circumstance." The Ten Boom family, a Christian family living in Holland, take it upon themselves to help the Jews trying to escape the oppressive Nazi occupation during World War II. Corrie & her sister Betsie teach some of the most tender lessons about how to love & forgive our enemies, and how to show gratitude for every little thing. Also, there isn't any language in this book, & although it's a wartime book, it has such a positive spin on it that it differs greatly from many other WWII books.
"God's viewpoint is sometimes different from ours-- so different that we could not even guess at it unless HE had given us a Book that tells us such things. God values us not for our strength or our brains, but simply because he has made us."
This psalm lends credence to the title- "Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, & a light unto my path... Thou art my hiding place & my shield."
"Happiness isn't something that depends on our surroundings..it is something we make inside of ourselves."
"This was evil's hour; we could not run away from it. Perhaps only when human effort had done its best & failed, would God's power alone be free to work."
"There are no 'if's' in God's world. And no places that are safer than other places. The center of His will is our only safety."
"If people can be taught to hate, they can be taught to love!"