"More accustomed to relying upon himself to shape events, he took the greatest control of the process leading up to the nomination, displaying a fierce ambition, an exceptional political acumen, & a wide range of emotional strengths, forged in the crucible of personal hardship, that took his unsuspecting rivals by surprise."
Questions for Discussion:
—How was Lincoln similar to or different from Chase, Bates & Seward (who were also running on the presidential ballot?)
-- How do you think Lincoln's personality differed from other presidents? Why does he stand out?

Questions to Discuss: 
*What is "invisible work?" Are we all guilty of participating in it & not acknowledging it to some extent?   
*"Lists alone don't work...but systems do."  (Do you have a management system in place in your home? How does it work?) 
​*What is the value of an unencumbered mind? What is the "dad privilege?"
*"When I think about who does the majority of the housework & child care in my household, I feel _______" 
*How do you feel about multitasking? If someone multitasks at your house, who do you feel does it better? You or hubby? 
​*What do you do to create "Unicorn Space" for yourself & in your life so that you can keep developing into an interesting person?  
* What do you think of Rodsky's fair play cards? Would you add any others and what would they be? 
Do you agree with her pairs cards? (i.e. "The transportation {kids} card pairs with {birthday celebrations for other kids} card.") 


BOOK QUOTES: 
Quote from The Confident Woman: 
{Before sleep each night} "Wash the dinner dishes, set out cereal for the morning, pull meat out of the freezer, fill the dog's water dish, put wet clothes in the dryer, empty the wastebasket, lock the doors, look in on kids, write a quick note to the teacher, wash & moisturize her face, & then add 3 more things to her to-do list for the next day. Meanwhile, the husband turns off the TV & announces to no one in particular, 'I'm going to bed.'" 

"Ownership belongs to the person who first off remembers to plan, then plans, & then follows through on every aspect of executing the plan & completing the task without reminders." 

"Rule #1: All Time is Created Equal is required for you & your partner to benefit from the true life & relationship -changing experience of Fair Play. It asks you both to reframe how you value time & then commit to the goal of re-balancing the hours that domestic work requires between two partners."